The
Healing Touch of Tango
By Tasleem Rajwani
'Dancing can be magical
and transforming. It can breathe new life into a tired soul;
make a spirit soar; unleash locked-away creativity;…or
trigger forgotten memories.' (Let's
Dance to Health)
In my last article, Mambo
Medicine, I described the impact salsa dancing has had
on my health. Since then, I have been touched by the number
of people who opened up to me about their own stories around
dancing.
In particular, Peter Ferreira’s account of how he became
a tango dancer is proof of the truly transformative power
of dance.
Peter, formerly in the contracting
business, worked independently for five years. His friends
described him as focused, perseverant, vivacious and amusing.
He worked hard and was goal oriented, and from the sounds
of it, Peter didn’t let anything get in the way of his
goals.
But in January of 2002, Peter
was involved in a serious car accident that changed his plans
and his life. Approaching Nordel Hill, he was hit by an oncoming
driver. Although Peter was in his own lane, going in the opposite
direction, the driver heading towards him lost control of
his car, and crossed the center line. Peter attempted to dodge
the car but couldn’t. Witnesses say that the car that
collided with the driver’s side of Peter’s van
was traveling at the speed of about one hundred kilometers
per hour.
Fortunately, Peter survived, but
the impact of the crash left him with a body that needed much
repair. Two of Peter’s major bones in his leg were shattered
- his femur and tibia. Rods were placed along the length of
these bones, along with anchoring screws, to help the bones
redevelop. Though the hardware was implanted to aid Peter
in his recovery, the screws were too long for the bones, and
this caused Peter extreme discomfort and pain. Yet Peter had
to endure having the equipment in his body for three years.
There were also many other repercussions
Peter had to face because of the accident. One of the most
severe was damage to his left frontal lobe. The result was
a blood clot in his brain. This had a huge effect on Peter’s
memory. “I went to bed on a Saturday and the next thing
I knew, I woke up on a Wednesday in the hospital,” he
explained. Peter couldn’t remember any details of the
accident. In fact, there is a six month period of his life,
around the time of the crash, of which he has no recollection.
Peter’s loss of memory
did not just revolve around moments in time. He also struggled
to retain information that had been built up over years of
experience. Peter lost most of his contracting skills and
was struggling to remember how to use the tools with which
he had been familiar for over twenty years.
Peter underwent rehabilitation
treatment for two years. He worked with physical therapists
and was put through a series of cognitive tests. After some
time, he tried working out – using weights and a treadmill-
and also tried swimming to strengthen himself. But he was
not seeing the results that he desired. He had trouble focusing,
and the activities suggested to him were very solitary.
Understandably, Peter experienced
much frustration and anger. The accident had a considerable
impact on his daily routines. Peter was having trouble sleeping,
he was in pain, and he didn’t know if he could ever
return to his previous job.
Yet, despite all the setbacks,
Peter still managed to retain his determination and perseverance.
“Resilience is a good word
for Peter,” said Geraldine Goyer, “He had it when
I first met him, and he still has it now.”
Two years after the accident,
at a friend’s birthday party, Peter met Geraldine. She
was a dancer and had been performing and teaching tango for
over twenty years. Geraldine was moved by the story of Peter’s
accident and encouraged him to try tango. She gave him her
card, and Peter called her two weeks later.
Though Peter had not had any
previous dance training, his attitude, teamed with Geraldine’s
patience and teaching expertise, allowed Peter to excel quickly.
Geraldine also knew something that Peter was yet to discover
- that dancing had the power to heal, “I could tell
he really needed the lessons, and there was no way I was going
to let him walk out the door without seeing where the dancing
went, and what it could do for him,” said Geraldine.
Through
dance, Peter began working on his balance, coordination and
muscle strengthening. The movements involved were very different
to any of the other forms of exercise he had tried. Dancing,
furthermore, wasn’t just physically rewarding for Peter.
Tango also served as a great mental workout as it kept Peter
concentrative and alert. Also, the repetition of steps and
movements helped to redevelop his memory, “Things were
so up in the air with Peter...But dancing got him to focus
and have direction.” explained Geraldine.
With tango, Peter was also given
the opportunity to make deeper connections with his surroundings.
His constant connection to the dance floor gave Peter a grounding
and centeredness that he needed. He was learning to respond
to different dance partners, and the space in which he was
moving. This allowed him to explore the space within himself,
gaining more insight into who he was and what he really wanted.
As Geraldine so poignantly put it, “I think that to
Peter, tango means connecting to a part of himself that he
wasn’t really in touch with before.”
This, in turn, led Peter to interact
on a deeper level with others. Before the accident, most of
Peter’s time was concentrated on himself and his job.
But the accident helped Peter find something he was passionate
about. This passion for dance helped Peter open up to others
and welcome new relationships into his life.
Because of tango, Peter became
stronger in body, but also in mind and spirit. Dancing brought
him a new kind of happiness that was liberating, “To
me, tango represents freedom of movement, thought, and success,”
shared Peter, “It’s not about winning over someone.
It’s a team sport where everyone wins.”
Not only did Peter enjoy the
dancing, but he was also very good at it, “He had a
natural affinity for it,” explained Randy, a close friend
of Peter’s. In fact, after a couple of months, Peter
was helping Geraldine demonstrate in her classes. And within
six months, Peter did his first performance with Geraldine.
Since then, Peter and Geraldine have been teaching and performing
at various venues. They recently opened up a dance studio
in Burnaby called Dance Addicts where they teach tango at
different levels. Observing Peter teach, it is hard to believe
that he has only been dancing for a few years. He moves with
such fluency and allows the music to take him over. Peter
is so carefree, constantly making jokes and entertaining the
class with his sense of humour and sarcasm. Yet, the seriousness
of how he got to where he is today still lies within him.
And this gives more meaning to Peter’s lessons, “Dancing
is such a healing activity, at so many levels,” said
Geraldine, “and Peter brings that into his teaching
often. We both do.”
At first, it seemed that the accident
prevented Peter from focusing and from achieving what he wanted.
But over time, he realized that he was given a chance to refocus
his life, and to have new dreams revealed to him. “Some
people think of an accident as an interruption or a major
setback,” said Randy, “Others think it’s
a sign from God to show you another path,” Looking back,
Peter is now so grateful for the new path that was revealed
to him – one paved by the healing power of dance, “I
went through hell. The accident was hell,” admitted
Peter, “but it was also the best thing that ever happened
to me. I wouldn’t have started dancing if it wasn’t
for that crash. Geraldine and Tango saved my life.”
For more information about
Peter and Geraldine and their dance classes,
visit their website: danceaddicts.ca
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